Have you heard of “Uncle Bob”?
Or as my hubby likes to call them - Mosquitos - because they just love to buzz around - and get in the way.
They are the [guest] unpaid ‘photographers’ at every wedding!!
The relative with the fancy camera - hovering over my shoulder - to get every shot.
Or even worse - gets in the shot - as they go for an alternative angle.
Luckily for me - it has only happened a handful of times - but believe me - a handful too many!
I’ve had an aisle full of iPad screens - as the bride walks the aisle with her parents.
I’ve had “Uncle Bob” stand in the middle of the aisle - directly in front of me - to capture the new Mr&Mrs - as they exit the church.
And the absolute icing on the cake - I’ve had a guest walk right in front of my lens - and cover the entire shot - of the bride and groom’s first kiss!
I really didn’t think I needed to put a flag on my head - but I may have to consider it.
People are so oblivious - they are just so focussed on getting THEIR shot - or they just don’t care!
So how do we manage “Uncle Bob”?
Have an unplugged wedding.
Just your loved ones - being completely present - watching you marry the love of your life.
Truly living these moments - that I (the photographer) am paid to capture.
Wouldn’t it be better to look through your professional pictures - and see your guests tearing up - as they hear your vows?
Instead of pictures of them - taking pictures - or looking at the cameras - replaying the moments that have just happened - and therefore missing the moments that are happening!
An unplugged wedding can easily be announced via invitations or wedding day programs - without singling out “Uncle Bob”
And it is up to you if you decide to do an unplugged wedding for the whole day - or just for the ceremony.
As a photographer - I love the idea of an unplugged wedding - for the reasons mentioned above.
But as a bride - I am honestly not sure if I would choose it or not.
An unplugged wedding was not heard of when I got married - so I had lots of guests take pictures - and fortunately - no “Uncle Bobs”
And knowing that our professional pictures would take a few weeks - I was grateful to see our friends’ pictures posted on Facebook.
Having said that - most photographers these days - myself included - post sneaky peaks within a couple of days anyway.
So - why not ask your guests to leave their cameras at home - and their phones in their purses - and ask them to REALLY enjoy your day - WITH you - instead?!